The Other Woman?

I decided that today we would take a break from me and focus on my close friend Tiger Lily. One thing that you learn as you move through life is the disappointing fact that life is not fair. Many times we are placed in situations and circumstances that we didn't exactly ask for, but never the less we are forced to deal with what we have been given. Last weekend Tiger Lily found herself in one of these situations, and even though I have known for a long time that life is unfair, it never ceases to slap me across the face.

Tiger Lily got herself in a sticky situation that she did not ask for. It began one night when she went out with one of her good friend's boyfriend. They had hung out before with out the friend and their relationship was strictly platonic. However after a few drinks the guy began to say things he probably shouldn't and bathe Tiger Lily with compliments. It's one of those situations where you know something is a bit off, but you keep hoping that maybe you are just over reacting and being paranoid. After all how could your best friend's boyfriend be hitting on you? They began to walk home from the concert they were at, and slowly but surely he made his move. Clearly there were steps that could have been avoided, but never the less he planted a kiss, and drunkenly she kissed him back. Moments later she pushed him off of her realizing that this was her friend's boyfriend. This was not supposed to happen. This break of trust led her to run away in which he followed her and managed to calm Tiger Lily down. But things progressed on his end as he kept pushing himself on her (not physically, but in his manner of speaking and a brief and sad attempt at getting something more to happen). He began trying to talk to Tiger Lily about sex and how beautiful she was, clearly not topics a guy with a girlfriend should be talking about. Tiger Lily then went home upset and confused at the events that had taken place.

So since I have already had an article on cheating and cheaters, what about when you get stuck in the middle? Does this make you a bad person? Is it fair that a person's stupid actions can lead to you losing your reputation and possibly a close friend? Does "Don't kill the messenger" work in this situation? The tricky thing here is wondering where do you go after this transgression has occurred? Do you tell your friend? In my opinion, yes.

The boyfriend was selfish to place his needs above his loyalty to your friend. She needs to know. She may be mad at you at first, but if you really care about someone, sometimes we have to make sacrifices to protect those we love. It hurts and it seems unfair, but that's life.

I love you Tiger Lily. Stay strong. I know that you are not the only one who has been thrown into this kind of situation. You're not a bad person and someday your friend will thank you for telling the truth. Just have faith.